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So many of us describe ourselves as having a masculine side and a feminine side to our personalities. Some go even further and talk about the side we are not currently showing in the third person (i.e. he or she is …).

I believe this is a dangerous practice. To me this indicates less than a full acceptance of ourselves as a whole human being.

Several years ago I started consciously allowing my “feminine side” to be openly expressed when I was “en homme.” As I got better at doing this I found myself becoming happier, less frequently depressed, and more open with those I cared about. That’s all good.

We must learn to love and accept all of ourselves. Trying to compartmentalize our personality is a recipe for depression and disaster.

My God accepts me the way I am – as a matter of fact, as I wrote elsewhere, I believe He chose this burden for me to somehow further His kingdom on Earth.

If He can accept – and love – me this way, then I surely should be able to do the same.

It serves me little good to worry about what others may think of me. The only thing that matters is what I think of me. I choose to be me and to love all of me just the way I am.

We can’t afford to choose “sides.” We must be ourselves, whatever that may be and however we have to express ourselves.

This is great little book, girls! In addition to the little tips she gives on hair, makeup, jewelry, etc. Ms. Leigh’s main emphasis is on helping us to become more fully accepting of ourselves. This in turn makes others more accepting of us.

The only thing emancipated crossdressers are ‘afflicted’ with is abundant self-acceptance, a lack of narrow mindedness, and a disturbing tendency to express our true selves. If this is a problem, then let’s define it as Gender Identity Euphoria, the treatment for which is MasterCard Therapy.”

Ms. Leigh uses both humor and straight-forwardness to show how to handle people we confront and teaches how to hold our heads erect and meet the world on our terms.

She emphasizes the three most important lessons we need to internalize:

Accept yourself – denial doesn’t work;

Assert yourself – you deserve the best;

Allow yourself – to enjoy your new freedom.

We are not monsters; we all know that – intellectually. This book helps us to believe that emotionally; and that is critical to our self-image and self-acceptance. It is possible for everyone else to be wrong and an individual to be right.

I highly recommend this book to all our members. And after you read it, be prepared for a shopping trip!

Back in the days of Shakespeare, there were no women in the theater, so boys or men had to fill the women’s parts (that’s why Shakespeare has few women’s parts). When a guy had to play a woman, he would be “DRessed As Girl.” Similarly, one portraying a younger guy would be “DRessed As Boy.”

As we blondes are fond of saying, “Well, duh?”